{"id":3602,"date":"2017-05-05T13:27:53","date_gmt":"2017-05-05T18:27:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/etereman.com\/remanu\/?p=3602"},"modified":"2017-05-05T13:27:53","modified_gmt":"2017-05-05T18:27:53","slug":"own-your-ugly","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/etereman.com\/remanu\/2017\/05\/05\/own-your-ugly\/","title":{"rendered":"Own Your Ugly"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nI cry. I ugly cry. I get jealous. I get professional jealousy. I am short. I sell myself short. I procrastinate. I procrastinate on my dreams. I judge. I often judge quickly without the correct amount of information to do so. I eat donuts. I eat a lot of donuts. My hair does this thing in the back that just\u2026 You get the idea. You might observe this list and say, “Why, donuts are awesome! What the heck?”\u00a0<\/em>I jest. Just as beauty is, ugly is relative.
\nI make an active choice to see my own ugly. It\u2019s in how I address myself in the mirror. It\u2019s in how I think about people I see or work with. It\u2019s in what I brood about on the drive home, while I\u2019m cooking, venting, lying in bed, and on the drive into work the next day. It\u2019s how I treat people. I see it reflected there the most. And what I see in that mirror is not always pretty.
\nTake for example a co-worker, family member by association, or regularly encountered acquaintance who brings out your ugly. We shall call this person Terry.
\nSomewhere along the way, Terry inspired the teeth grinding, fist clenching, eye rolling, sighing instead of regular breathing person within us. And try as you might to ignore, avoid, or just not give a donut, there you are grinding, clenching, rolling, and sighing in Terry\u2019s presence. It\u2019s exhausting. It\u2019s annoying. And perhaps most importantly, if you work or socialize with Terry regularly, it\u2019s not productive.
\nRather than willing this person out of existence (guilty<\/em>) or having a meltdown (guilty<\/em>) or suddenly becoming busy when that person arrives (guilty<\/em>), confront what optional ugly you may have that can be acknowledged, embraced, and forgiven–for Terry\u2019s sake and your own.<\/p>\n