{"id":5852,"date":"2021-02-18T16:17:19","date_gmt":"2021-02-18T16:17:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/etereman.com\/remanu\/?p=5852"},"modified":"2021-02-19T02:27:16","modified_gmt":"2021-02-19T02:27:16","slug":"who-rules-the-world-moms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/etereman.com\/remanu\/2021\/02\/18\/who-rules-the-world-moms\/","title":{"rendered":"Who Rules the World? Moms"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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By now you\u2019ve probably encountered the New York Times \u201cexpose\u201d<\/a> about the strain the pandemic and changing work dynamics are having on moms. There\u2019s a LOT of stories about it. I am a mom working from home during the pandemic, and I\u2019ve been struggling. I\u2019ve largely avoided talking directly about the pandemic in REMAN U. We\u2019ve touched on the \u201cwork from home\u201d topic quite a bit, and I wrote a post about coming up for fresh air, wherever that is.<\/p>

Writing for REMAN U has always been one part work \u2013 if I don\u2019t have an article ready from another author, guess whose turn it is! \u2013 and part self-therapy. I dig deep and find a topic that would be beneficial for me to explore, and I write it out.<\/p>

Sorry, folks, today it\u2019s this.<\/p>

Here is a very general statement that says: Of course, some dads do more than moms. Some, many, have it way worse than me or anyone I know directly, and I\u2019m highly sensitive to that.<\/p>

At home, I have a toddler. For anyone who has had kids or has known kids, you probably have some sense of what this means. Because of the obvious, and because it\u2019s possible (difficult, yes, but possible), we have decided not to have him in preschool the last year. He\u2019s at home. We don\u2019t have a lot of help. I think that\u2019s me being polite in saying there\u2019s no infrastructure of family or friends that we can, safely or not, depend on to help with this whole situation.<\/p>

I think a lot of people need help. I think a lot of people don\u2019t have it.<\/p>

My home office? It\u2019s in my living room. I have a very tiny 2-bedroom house with no basement. There is a decided lack of closets, no spare room, and, even if I did have these \u201cideal\u201d home office scenarios, I\u2019d be hidden from my toddler, my toddler who needs me. Sure, sometimes I do meetings from my bedroom, the door closed, hoping futilely that he won\u2019t knock on the door. And sometimes I do meetings just having gotten him to nap, sleeping on or very near me. Unprofessional? Maybe. The alternative? Heart-rending.<\/p>

Some days are fine. Some days I cry. Some days I can\u2019t get everything done, and I work on my laptop from bed with a headache until I know I need to go to sleep because when my toddler wakes me up, I have to prioritize his needs and then get to work. On and on it\u2019s gone this last year.<\/p>

Sometimes I consider the ways it could be worse: I could have more than one of these things (kids), I could have more to worry about than just their wellbeing, but their education, I could be sick. I could be unemployed. This list isn\u2019t to make me feel bad for struggling. I am, you are, we all are, allowed to struggle within our own context.<\/p>

I am a pretty honest person. If you ask me how I am in a meeting, I\u2019ll probably say, \u201cFine,\u201d or, \u201cGood,\u201d or, \u201cYou know, Monday!\u201d or I\u2019ll complain bitterly about the weather that makes the confines of my small 2-bedroom house with my toddler and dogs and person and stuff and work all the more claustrophobic. I suppose a lot of people aren\u2019t using their work meetings as a desperate cry for help, after all, what help is there?<\/p>

The articles posted the last month about the burden on moms were largely accurate and revealing and affirming and all that. But they didn\u2019t offer much in terms of how society can change swiftly and drastically to right itself. It\u2019s just this for now.<\/p>

I\u2019m extremely grateful for my job. Extremely grateful for this time with my son. Extremely grateful things aren\u2019t worse. But you know what, sometimes it\u2019s therapeutic to just acknowledge when things aren\u2019t okay.<\/p>

There isn\u2019t often an infrastructure in corporate America (or wherever you are, really) for mental wellness. It has the longest way to come. Maybe it is yet to come. Here\u2019s hoping!<\/p>

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