{"id":5908,"date":"2021-05-17T15:40:07","date_gmt":"2021-05-17T15:40:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/etereman.com\/remanu\/?p=5908"},"modified":"2021-05-17T15:50:04","modified_gmt":"2021-05-17T15:50:04","slug":"gotta-dos-that-arent-wanna-dos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/etereman.com\/remanu\/2021\/05\/17\/gotta-dos-that-arent-wanna-dos\/","title":{"rendered":"Gotta Do’s That Aren’t Wanna Do’s"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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\u201cI gotta clean my room, but I don’t wanna. But if I don\u2019t, Mama is going to throw all my stuff away\u201d. Proceeds to clean room.<\/span><\/p>

\u201cI gotta go for a run, but I don\u2019t wanna. Meh, no one will know but me.\u201d Sits on couch and eats cookies and watches Netflix for 7 hours.<\/span><\/p>

\u201cI gotta read this book, I love the opportunity to learn but I\u2019m so busy I don’t know how I will ever get it done!\u201d Gets book read, learns something, and completes all other todo\u2019s.<\/span><\/p>

Without accountability and <\/span>consequences,<\/span> gotta do\u2019s that aren’t wanna do\u2019s turn into not gonna do\u2019s.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

This is not an article about self-motivation. It\u2019s not about how to find your oomph. Rather is it an article about extrinsic motivation. It is about why we as people do things that we don’t necessarily want to do. We are really good at justifying not doing something. \u201cI forgot.\u201d \u201cI\u2019m too busy\u201d. \u201cIt\u2019s not important to me\u201d. But when that proverbial carrot is in sight, or we fear repercussions, that is when we act.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

So how do you get an employee, your child, a teammate, oh and especially your spouse, to do the job when they are not committed to the task at hand?<\/span><\/p>

  1. Set your expectations. Let them know that it is not optional, this thing to do is not an ask. It is a requirement as part of the organization.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>
  2. Explain the why. \u201cThis is important because\u2026\u201d, \u201cDoing (or not doing) this will cause\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/li>
  3. Provide motivation, especially when commitment from the other person is lacking. I don\u2019t necessarily mean you have to be a cheerleader nor the warden, but make sure the benefits of compliance are known, as well as the consequences.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>
  4. Stick to your guns. Allowing excuses devalues the task. If you say, \u201cDo this, then.\u201d or \u201cDo this, or else.\u201d, then\u00a0 \u201cthen\u201d or \u201cor else\u201d needs to happen. Warnings or promises without action will make you untrustworthy, lose clout and diminish the significance of the job requirement.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><\/ol>

    We have all been there before, whether it be in your personal life or a work setting. You read the book because the boss says to. You dreaded it and thought you would suffer page by page, but in the end, if you learned even one thing, then your time was well spent. You wear the safety glasses even though they get foggy and make your nose hurt. But when you don’t get a sharp stick in the eye, you most definitely see life a little clearer.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

    For my task makers: Be fair. Understand that what you are asking should provide a benefit, either to the individual or the organization. Be realistic.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

    For my task excusers: Even though that human brain of yours may lead you to chase the carrot and avoid the stick, try to take action based on the culture of respect and the desire for personal and\/or organizational growth. <\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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