{"id":6147,"date":"2022-07-18T18:53:22","date_gmt":"2022-07-18T18:53:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/etereman.com\/remanu\/?p=6147"},"modified":"2022-07-25T17:42:36","modified_gmt":"2022-07-25T17:42:36","slug":"ask-me-no-questions-and-ill-tell-you-no-lies","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/etereman.com\/remanu\/2022\/07\/18\/ask-me-no-questions-and-ill-tell-you-no-lies\/","title":{"rendered":"Ask Me No Questions, And I’ll Tell You No Lies"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Little kids ask questions to learn. Remember the \u201cwhy\u201d phase? I do. Teens learn to not ask for permission, but rather for forgiveness. But only if they get caught of course. As adults, we question everything. Our children, and our spouses, customers, employees and even our superiors are the recipients of what seems to be a never ending list of questions.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Asking for things or information is a necessary part of life, however, asking questions can be outright terrifying.<\/span><\/p>\n

Will the answer be \u201cno\u201d? Personally, I have never gotten down on one knee and popped the question, but I would assume the fear of rejection lingers under the surface. What if the response is a blatant lie? \u201cI didn\u2019t eat the candy\u201d! As the toddler’s face is smeared with melted chocolate bar. When the response to the question is a question, \u201cDid you check to make sure the tires were all the same size before replacing the transfer case?\u201d, \u201cWhy does it matter?\u201d When the simple, \u201cWhere do you want to go for dinner?\u201d backfires and leaves you with more unknowns than you started with, a hungry belly, and an irritated partner.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I regretfully admit that I am bad at asking for things. Whether it be something to satisfy a need, or asking for help. I find it easier to climb the shelves at the store than seek out a worker that is taller than my measly four foot eleven and a quarter. I don\u2019t like asking a question when I know the answer is likely \u201cno\u201d. On Saturday, I sent off a text message to my now adult daughter to ask if she was coming home. I knew the answer was \u201cno\u201d, I knew that hanging out with the boyfriend was way more fun than a night with Mom. I asked anyway, received my \u201cno\u201d, and went on about my business. However, child of mine, if you are reading this – visit your Mommy!<\/span><\/p>\n

How do we as employees, employers, customers and people in general get better about asking good questions that give us the answers that we desire? How do we ensure that we are being effective and efficient in our requests?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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  • Ask better questions to get better answers<\/b>: \u201cDid you reset the shift adapts with the appropriate scan tool?\u201d The answer is usually \u201cyes\u201d. Our technicians have no proof that the action was actually completed. However, if asked in an open ended fashion, the person on the receiving end is forced to provide a more in depth response. \u201cTell me how you reset the shift adapts, and what tool did you use?\u201d This allows for a conversation, the truth and a potential learning experience.<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Only ask questions that matter: We\u2019ve all been there, or at least seen the meme of the guy at the parts counter who asks what engine is in the vehicle and you simply are looking to purchase wiper blades. Inquiries that don’t match the end goal leave room for confusion, or even worse damage your credibility as a professional.\u00a0<\/span><\/b><\/li>\n
  • Avoid asking questions that cause defensiveness:<\/strong> Once a person’s wall goes up, you will have a heck of time breaking through to them. When requesting information or explanations, make it seem less of an interrogation by not allowing blame to creep into the question. \u201cI noticed you were late three times last week, is there something going on that I can help you with?\u201d Rather than, \u201cYou were late all last week. This is unacceptable. What are you going to do to make sure you get to work on time?\u201d You will get honesty and build relationships by addressing issues as if you are part of the solution.<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Be prepared to hear \u201cNO\u201d:<\/strong> The answer isn’t always \u201cyes\u201d. Be ready to compromise on the situation. Jeff may not agree to stay an hour later today, but rather than be offended from the rejection, ask when he is able to. Do not assume that he is not a team player, he may be his mom\u2019s only ride to the doctor appointment today.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Only ask if it\u2019s not a tell:<\/strong> Do you require that Saturday hours are worked occasionally? Is it a requirement that safety glasses and steel toed boots are worn on the shop floor? If something is a condition of employment, or fundamental to the organization, alluding to the option to opt out will only cause frustration and blurred expectations. <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    If you are one that has never struggled with asking a question in the best way possible, I envy you. However, one step at a time I get better and continue to learn and grow.\u00a0<\/p>\n

    With that, I must go ask what the nine year old wants for breakfast. My question today will be, \u201cEggs, cereal or pancakes?\u201d Not \u201cWhat do you want to eat?\u201d As I’m sure the answer would be breakfast brownie pizza if I left it that open ended.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Wish me luck, I sure hope the answer is cereal. <\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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